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Let’s just talk a little bit about the kinds of things that you really feel that a male partner goes through. I was talking about my book, Unleashing Your Power, Moving beyond Sexual Betrayal, and she said, “I have a couple of men, could they come to your workshop.” I said, no, but I would love to start a workshop just for them, so the fact that this book is so well done, you go into how does a man feel, what does he think about himself, understanding his stress response.

I know I threw it out to a couple of ListServs and (Leah Brick), she contacted me. I’m excited to share.Ĭarol: I was so excited to hear you were writing this book, and we’re always looking for support groups for male partners. I’m so excited to be working with Sibylle Georgianna, who has a written a book for male partners to offer that support. They don’t feel comfortable telling everybody that they’ve been betrayed.

They go through the same issues as a female partner, but it’s a little bit different in part because of the societal norms, and also in part because men need to keep the secret. That’s why I was so excited when I found out that we had somebody on our APSAT ListServ that works specifically with male partners, and she’s actually written a book to offer that support that she knows so many male partners want. And for anybody who has ever seen my post-traumatic growth course for female partners, you know that I include a male in there and he really goes off in his interview on how few resources there are for dealing with male partners. Male partners are beginning to come out and say, “This is tough stuff and I’ve been holding it in and I know that I’ve got to get it out.” We have a local male partner group and it’s called “The Only Man in the Meeting,” because if you’re a male partner, you don’t have a lot of resources. I worked with another male partner on Friday.

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Listen to this episode during which coach Carol Juergensen-Sheet (CarolTheCoach) and I dialogue about how to best address betrayal trauma (skip ahead to the start of the interview 11:55 min into the episode of this podcast):Ĭarol: I just worked with a man today, a male partner. I would like to repeat: betrayal trauma is not your fault. You have many questions: Was my relationship with the one who betrayed me an illusion? What’s my sense of reality that I did not see the dual life of the one who betrayed me sooner? How could I have entrusted myself and my family to a person I did not know? You have been wounded on so many levels. The betrayal wound causes you to no longer trust your significant other and yourself. I know that reactions such as anger, sadness, numbness or craving to go out and cheat in response to an affair and/or other type of betrayal show the humongous loss.

I want male partners to know that at some point they need to mourn the relationship they thought they had. I feel honored to have written a book for male partners to offer that support. They experience an out-of-the-blue grief response to the sudden loss of what they thought was their life and they have nowhere to turn because that there are very few resources for male partners. ’ A Man’s Tools for Addressing Betrayal: A Blog Talk Radio Interview with Carol the Coach and Sibylle Georgianna about Male Partner Betrayal Trauma and How to Overcome Itīetrayal Trauma can feel different for male partners Their greatest wounding is to believe that nothing that they experienced with their significant other was real.

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